Thursday, January 3, 2013

To grump or not to grump?

That is the question. I have to hold up my hand and confess that I am not a sweetness and light sort of person. What? I hear you cry. Surely not. But tis true. I'm Mrs. Negative according to my other half. Definitely a glass half empty person and not a glass half full. Well, to be honest, I never leave half a glass of anything, so that analogy is a bit redundant. But I am critical. I was brought up by a mother who always pushed me to do better. That can be a good thing and a bad. Bad when nothing is ever good enough. Bad when every little achievement is pulled apart. Good when it instilled in me a need to always keep trying. But balance is the thing and I didn't have that when I was growing up.

So now I find it easier to pick fault that I do praise. I rarely think anything is perfect because generally, it isn't. It can't be a coincidence that a couple of my many jobs have involved inspection of some sort - in other words finding fault (and also stuff to praise) in other people's work. My very first job - if I don't count the disaster that was serving tea and coffee at a motorway service station - and I don't!!!! - was inspecting business tax records. Imagine how I was loved. I don't think anyone ever loved me for any of the jobs I did - but I do get love from readers who like my stories and I'm grateful for that every day that I breathe!! You made my dreams come true- but I'm a still a grump at heart.


Arlene said...

From my critical heart to yours, I couldnt have said it better myself. Thank you for knowing what to write, to say, to make me always feel as if I'm on the same page as you are. Not that I mean the pages we've written and published. Clearly your stories rock and mine remain muddled and ambigious to many, but the fact that you, best CP in the world, get it is what keeps me going.

Barbara Elsborg said...

LOL, Arlene!!!

tradermare said...

LOl.. do you think we should start a club or something? I think its just part of looking at things with a critical eye, not settling for something "less". I once had a colleague tell me I needed to lower my standards!

Glad you find enjoyment from your readers! You are, in my book, the best menage writer. I would not have read that sort of story had I not had a friend recommend Anna in the Middle to me. Your books opened up a whole new type of erotica for me.