Friday, August 10, 2012

How I became a writer of erotic romance


I can guarantee that I can stop dinner party conversations in their tracks when I’m asked what I do. I write erotic romance. Not only are women fascinated, so are men. I get all the usual questions – where do you get your inspiration – lots of winks at husband—how do your family feel about what you write, why aren’t you on the best seller lists with EL James?
      I started off in my teens writing what’s now known as fan fiction. I wrote episodes of TV series with me – under different names—as the heroine. My first full length novel was romantic suspense – I failed to interest anyone. Too dark was the verdict. I wrote another but never did anything with it. Then a third – also romantic suspense but more suspense than romance. I put that aside and wrote a romantic comedy. Still had no bites from agents. Wrote a few more romances and kept trying. Kept getting rejected.
      Eventually I joined an online critique group, Critique Circle, and critiqued work of a writer of erotic romance—Amanda Young. I watched her land a publishing deal and thought – is that what I have to do, add sex? So I did and the first erotic romance I wrote I sold to Ellora’s Cave – the biggest e-publisher of erotic romance in the world. Since then, I haven’t looked back. I added sex to all the stories I’d written before and had them all published by several different companies.
      I’ve had 23 novels published since 2007. Gosh, that sounds a lot! About half of them are about bisexual guys and a straight woman. The guys are a mix of vampires, werewolves, faeries and your average Joe! Plus I’ve written two MM novels as well.
      I think the way I slid into this business is what’s made me a little different to most writers of erotic romance. My stories have plots that aren’t based around sex. Ellora’s Cave really want sensual plots so I’m lucky they like mine! But the sexy bits are very sexy! And funny. Apart from my suspense novels that definitely aren’t funny, all my other books are written with plenty of humorous bits, parts, sections.
      My family don’t mind what I write – though my son has gone to live in another country to get away from me and my daughter has changed her name. My mother-in-law doesn’t know. I need to keep it that way , so sssshh!!
      And I’m waiting for my share of EL James success with 50 Shades of Gray – though BDSM definitely isn’t my thing!

My latest book is ‘Girl Most Likely To’ – was published by Ellora’s Cave on the 11th July. It’s a MMF ménage.


Wren doesn’t feel like the girl most likely to end up living happily ever after. Especially when Adam, aka THE BIG MISTAKE, comes back into her life. He wants a second chance but Wren’s afraid to risk another dent in her battered heart.
When Adam reconnects with Wren, he’s torn between wooing her and pursuing Tomas, the sexy guy in the flat next door. They both make his heart sing—how can he possibly choose between them? Or maybe he’s finally found a man and woman to give him the balance he craves.
Tomas knows better than to let his personal life interfere with his job as an undercover officer but he can’t get enough of Adam…or Wren. Or Adam and Wren when they’re hot, naked and writhing together in his bed.
Suddenly Wren’s gone from the girl most likely to get ripped off to the girl most likely to get off. But it’s more than sex. She, Tomas and Adam have something special, something they’re determined to protect at all costs.


If you leave a comment on the blog – you have a chance of winning an ecopy of the book or any of my backlist of your choice!




20 comments:

Yvette said...

I love that you can stop people in their tracks with what you do....I think it's wonderful and you should be very proud. I love your writing.
Yvette
yratpatrol@aol.com

laurie said...

i can ONLY imagine the kind of conversations you have started when you say you are an erotic author

laurie

parisfan_ca@yaho.com

Barbara Elsborg said...

Thanks Yvette!!
Laurie, the men are the most fascinated, I can tell you! I think my husband basks in the attention. He's always quick to say he's the cover model. Oh how I laugh.....

Unknown said...

I love this post! And I can see how being an erotic romance author would be a great conversation piece...And I prefer your work to 50 Shades of Grey
morris.crissy@gmail.com

Barbara Elsborg said...

Thank you so much, Crissy!! Now, if only I could persuade another 1,000,000 people!!!!

Arlene said...

Keep writing novels as wonderful as you do, and you'll persuade those zillion people, one at a time, what a powerful writer you are. Havent read Fifty Shades, but have read all of yours and feel like I'm the luckiest of readers.

Trader Mare said...

Thanks for writing about your writing journey. So very inspiring that you started out writing fanfiction. I love the characters in your stories. They are always interesting and you leave me wanting more! I was just remarking this morning that Kate and Charlie from Strangers are one of my favorite romantic couples from this summer's reads. Thanks for sharing your stories!

Evelyn said...

I love your books! Great post. thanks for the contest
evelynmoly@yahoo.com

Unknown said...

Still struggling with the decision to tell my family and friends I write m/m romance. I'm rather shy to begin with, so I'm sure the conversation would be awkward all around. They all know I'm a GLBTQ advocate (thanks, facebook!) so it probably wouldn't come as much of shock though. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
~madisonparklove@gmail.com

Terri said...

thanks for the contest

Terri said...

ooopppps forgot the email addy lol
terrilee.byles@yahoo.com

Kassandra said...

Thank you so much for the post and chance!

Kassandra
sionedkla@gmail.com

nancy said...

Loved your post and I promise not to leak any information to your MIL.

Foretta said...

Wow blurb sounds great! Thanks for the post. I promise not to tell on you LOL

forettarose@yahoo.com

Barbara Elsborg said...

Thanks so much for your comments everyone. I really appreciate them!

Anonymous said...

Great story! I love that you talk about it happily, because so many people don't. And m/m/f menage is ever so lovely...

vitajex(at)aol(dot)com

S.Lira said...

Very awesome blog Barbara!

Good luck in all your novels and the MMF sounds good. Adding to my TBR!

Barbara Elsborg said...

And the randomly picked winner is Terri! I'll be in touch.
Thanks to everyone for your comments!!!!

Barbara Elsborg said...
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Anonymous said...

Happy you did because a writer, Barb, because now I (and other lucky ladies in the romance community) get to know you and work with you. :)

Heather Bennett